Fix Your Flats

Divas the question “How do you dance in those heels?” is one that I am asked frequently. Just like any other physically charged activity you have to work at it. I’ll be the first to admit that it hasn’t always been as effortless as it is now. I can remember when my calves and quadriceps would feel like they were on fire after one song. Persistence and my love for shoes motivated me to keep working on it. Now it’s like second nature. I can dance all night in up to 6” heels. Wearing my heels is like a super hero putting on their cape!! I’m in full diva gear when I put on the heels and I feel like I’m ready to take on the world. My secret is actually no secret. I love shoes with a high heel and a great platform!! The height of the platform offsets the heel height!!

Now I’ve noticed that there are a lot of diva decepticons out there walking around in broke down heels. Yes I said broke down…their heels have blown a flat. If the heel of your shoe is trying to lay down…you’ve blown a flat, if you have lost the tap off of the heel of your shoe…you’ve blown a flat, if the leather/pleather or fabric on the heel of your shoe is peeled or scraped off…you’ve blown a flat. These aren’t true divas and this kind of buffockery gets them posted on a poster and their membership into the club will be denied until they have consistently shown that they have eradicated the buffockery from their lives.

I have a serious appreciation for a well-made pair of shoes therefore I don’t mind taking them to the shoe repair shop when I’ve lost a tap or the leather is in need of repairing. This is a resource that should be utilized when you have invested in a quality pair of shoes. This is not to say that all of my shoes are higher end because they aren’t. I do have a few very inexpensive pairs but I don’t feel as compelled to have them repaired when they have blown a flat as I do the more expensive ones.

Life: Anything of value that you use on a regular basis may sometimes require repairs. When your vehicle experiences problems you have it repaired. When your refrigerator or freezer stops cooling you have it repaired. Life situations are no different. When something in your life that you have invested time, money, and energy into experiences problems or issues you have to repair it. Self-esteem is one of our most valuable assets. This isn’t a problem for some but for most it is one of the easiest parts of our lives to blow a flat. Do an honest self-evaluation and be honest with yourself about the way that you view yourself.

My god sister came down for a visit a couple of weeks ago. It was one of the best weekends ever!! We laughed until we cried, we took frequent trips down memory lane, we partied like rock stars, we shopped as if we were the rich and famous, but the most valuable thing we did together was honest self-reflection. She came here a mirrored image internally of what I was 10 years ago, lost in mommyville trying to juggle a life consuming career, role as wife, mommy, and family martyr. I connected instantly with where she was because there was that strong feeling of familiarity that I recognized instantly. I made sure that every moment that we spent alone was being utilized showing her that you have control and the power to repair that flat. I can honestly say that when she left Tampa her flat was repaired and it brings a smile to my face every time I talk to her because it’s illuminating her life right now!! Her walk, talk, attitude towards life, and appreciation for herself have all been restored to a former place and she is living life and loving the woman she is. The flats have been repaired!!

Remember being a diva is more than just a title, it’s a way of life!!