The Shoe Don't Fit

Any Diva who knows me or has been reading this blog knows that shoes are a very vital part of my life. I have had a love affair going on with shoes for as long as I can remember. I feel like a diva should own lots of shoes because we wear shoes 365 days a year. Sometimes we wear multiple pairs throughout the course of a day and therefore we NEED lots. A key tip in maintaining the health of your shoes is to switch them up often. Make every effort to not wear the same pair ALL of the time. This is not Diva like behavior.

I also want to point out that it is paramount that we ensure that our shoes fit well. You lose major Diva points for wearing shoes that are either too big or too small. If your shoes are open toes your toes should not and I repeat NOT be hanging over the top of your shoes. This gets you thrown straight into Diva Prison with an unspecified release date!! You are not living up to your Diva Status with your toes hanging over the top of your shoes!! Don't do it no matter how cute you think the shoes are!!

Life: We all have our own shoes to fill and they are designed specifically to fit only our very own feet. That being said, sometimes when we give advice we have to understand that it may not always be taken or carried out as we had hoped. Bottom line is we can't tell a person what to do and always expect them to do just that. Knowing the person well doesn't mean we completely know the true measure of how they are feeling emotionally. I often say don't pass judgement on me and my life because you don't walk around in my (Fabulous) stilettos.

Remember being a diva is more than just a title, it's a way of life!!!

This post was inspired by a conversation with one of my D.I.T. (Divas In Training) Kelly Wilkerson!!!

Your Loss

Divas sometimes we try to hold on to things that we know aren't good for us. I myself embarked on a journey to lose weight about a year ago. To date I have lost 135 lbs. I feel great and look fabulous (I am my own biggest fan). It has been my personal mission to not be the smaller lady still wearing her bigger lady clothes. To describe it as a task would be an understatement. I spend a great deal of time shopping and having things tailored. I vowed to maintain my diva status throughout the process and I am doing just that. We find ourselves becoming attached to things based on history, familiarity, overall comfort. Not realizing that we could possibly be missing out on an abundance of new found happiness and fabulous looks!!

If you are a diva making an attempt to step up your game lose the things that have been a part of the unsuccessful game you were previously playing. Let go of the dresses that barely cover your butt cheeks...they put you in the not to be taken seriously category with potential mates. Lose the boxy unflattering tops, embrace your curves and flatter them with things that are made for your silhouette. I'm sure that there are people around you who are more than willing to help you make the transition into a greater you. If not I am offering my consultative services to help you become a better you. You can email me for advice at armywife2997@gmail.com. Your loss may quite possibly also be YOUR GAIN!!! Embrace change in your life and become a better diva!!

Life: People come into and leave our lives consistently. There are some that are meant to be there for long periods of time and then there are those who will only be there for a brief moment. Take the good and the life lessons from each of these situations and move forward with them. The people who are meant to be in your life will be there and those who aren't give them their walking papers. We hold on to people for the sake of familiarity and unwillingness to try something new. I relate it to an old robe. It may be tethered and flimsy but because it feels right even though it may look a mess we keep it around. Don't hold on to the useless unhealthy relationships...think about it...it's not your loss...it's theirs.

Remember being a diva is more than just a title, it's a way of life!!!

Friend or Foe

It's been a while since I've blogged and for all of my followers I apologize. Life got a little hectic and I had to take a time out. I'm back now and I've had a great deal of inspiration over the last week or so.

Divas I am very particular with who I adorn with the title FRIEND. I have a large amount of associates mainly by default through mutual friends. A friend in my world is someone who will tell you what you need to hear even if you don't want to hear it. A friend is someone that you can trust with your inner most secrets and they remain just that...secrets. A friend is someone who is available when ever you need them for advice, companionship, support, and even shoe shopping.

Let's do some assessing now. If you are a FRIEND then you have to be totally honest with your friends about their attire when going out for an evening of fun and partying. My FRIENDS and I were out and we witnessed some of the most ridiculous buffockery ever. Now we always give each other a looksy before heading out just to make sure that we are all on top of our game. If something doesn't quite work right we are open and honest enough with each other that we will say...ummm no sis. That's not going to work, but we also offer suggestions to make it work. This is what REAL FRIENDS do. Friends don't let friends go out looking a hot mess!!!

For my full figured divas we have to do a little extra and that's fine. Those of us who take pride in our appearance have learned to take it with a grain of salt and keep it moving. If you have love handles aka back abs then it's not a good idea to wear revealing articles of clothing. Now granted I think it's awesome for a big girl to love the skin she's in, but understand that everyone else in the world may not love it. I'm just saying you don't have to show ALL of the skin you're in!! Friends will tell you that you are doing too much, foes will let you go out looking a hot mess so that they get the attention or stand out as looking better. Are you a friend or a foe?

Life: We all have our moments of uncertainty about things in our lives. It's up to us to seek the advice of others when we are in doubt. We should all have someone that will hold us accountable for our decisions and choices. These accountability partners are a precious jewel in our lives and we should treat them as such. I am grateful that I have been blessed with a number of them and I hold them in high esteem as they are one of life's most valuable gifts!!! Are you a Friend or a Foe??

Remember being a diva is more than just a title, it's a way of life!!!